That feeling you get where nothing you do seems to work. That realization where you can’t seem to win. Damned if you do and damned if you don’t. None of us like to be there. The thing is that our wives don’t want us to be there either.
Whether you’re trying to please your wife, help her be in a better mood, or complete that task around the house to her liking, there’s a good chance you’ve been frustrated with the results from your efforts.
5 Tips to help you connect better and be more helpful with your wife
Here are a few tips that can help in your approach with your wife that can get you out of that place where you “can’t win”.
1. Stop trying to fix the problem. Many times women just need to know you can listen and have her back. Less fixing, more listening.
2. Ask your wife what she needs from you. Maybe she just needs you to listen. Maybe she needs feedback. Maybe she does need you to solve her problem. Regardless, ask her what she needs.
3. Let your wife have her feelings. Again, don’t try and tell her what to feel or why she shouldn’t be upset.
4. Sit and tolerate your own feelings or reactions to your wife’s feelings. Sometimes we get upset when the people we love get upset. Don’t be upset with her for having her own feelings.
5. Be clear about what you can do to help. This is where we can use our honesty to be clear with what we are capable of doing. If you can do it, do it. If you can’t do part of it, be open about it. If you can’t do the thing she is asking, see if you can offer an alternative. This will help you feel less frustrated and resentful.
I hope this helps! Did I leave something out? Let me know.
What are your thoughts?