Does it seem that you seldom get what you want? Does it seem that you come second to others or their needs? Why can’t you ever seem to get a break? Or why does it seem as if “nobody understands you”? We play a key role when we aren’t getting what we want or need,… Read More »
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Your partner won’t change? Here’s what might be getting in the way.
Many of us have been in a relationship that eventually begs the question of “will my partner ever change?” “What is reasonable change to ask for them to do? Is this just “who they are?” “Should I wait for them to change or should we end this?” The answer looks like this: It’s very important… Read More »
What some troubled marriages are lacking
The most often heard comment in my office a few weeks into couples counseling: “I honestly thought we would come into counseling and you’d tell us that HE was the one who needed most of the work! Now I can see where my own stuff is adding to the problems we are having.” It is… Read More »
5 ways to deal with procrastination
I recently wrote about what procrastination isn’t and a bit about what it is, or what it might be. You can find that post here. I believe one of the biggest misnomers about procrastination is that it is synonymous with being “lazy”. Not only do I think that procrastination has nothing to do with being… Read More »
The cost of maturity
I saw this bottle cap at my friend’s house yesterday. I think this is a battle worth fighting, with one caveat. Do allow maturity to enhance your life. Don’t give up in life what fuels your spirit.
5 reasons procrastination has nothing to do with “being lazy”
The bane of my existence. The thorn in my pride. A pain in the a** (for others). Say it with me. “I am a procrastinator”. Now, for those that aren’t procrastinators, I say congratulations. I have no ill will towards you. My wife is a non-procrastinator and I derive endless inspiration from her tireless energy… Read More »
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
“I was weak, now I’m strong, so go sc**w yourself” A losing relationship strategy
When I posted my blog about how men in relationships and their lack of vulnerability, I promised that I would follow-up with something about women. It’s not that we need to bash men or women and our flawed relationship strategies, we just need to shed some light on why they’re dysfunctional. Let’s just call a… Read More »
Getting away from fear as a motivator in your work environment
It’s Sunday and that nagging reminder the weekend is coming to an end has settled in our being. Not only are we bummed about the weekend ending but we’re dreading Monday. Monday means that we have to go back to work. Even if we love our jobs and the people we work with, it’s normal… Read More »