Hasn’t everyone had a fantasy of quitting a job they don’t like? Or making some kind of dramatic exit as they tell their boss what’s really on their minds? It’s not really like that. We can’t just quit our jobs at the spur of the moment. We can do that, but not without some consequence… Read More »
mindfulness
Don’t believe everything you think! 5 self defeating beliefs to challenge
It’s easier now than ever to see what other people are doing in their lives. Just get onto Facebook, or another social media platform, like Instagram. Within seconds you’ll be hit with pictures and stories of people who seem to have what you don’t. The perfect job, relationship, and vacation. You’re force fed what seem… Read More »
How to say “no” to people (and be ok with it)
How often do we concede to doing something that we really don’t want to do? How often do we then turn around and resent the person for asking us for the favor? Or blame someone else for not having enough time and energy to get done what we need to? Whether it’s something for a… Read More »
5 ways that we self sabotage
Does it seem that you seldom get what you want? Does it seem that you come second to others or their needs? Why can’t you ever seem to get a break? Or why does it seem as if “nobody understands you”? We play a key role when we aren’t getting what we want or need,… Read More »
5 ways to deal with procrastination
I recently wrote about what procrastination isn’t and a bit about what it is, or what it might be. You can find that post here. I believe one of the biggest misnomers about procrastination is that it is synonymous with being “lazy”. Not only do I think that procrastination has nothing to do with being… Read More »
The cost of maturity
I saw this bottle cap at my friend’s house yesterday. I think this is a battle worth fighting, with one caveat. Do allow maturity to enhance your life. Don’t give up in life what fuels your spirit.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
One moment you’re so sure that your mind and intuition are telling you the right things. “I can’t tell him no. He’s going to be really upset if I do that.” “Don’t take the chance, there’s too much to lose.” “Nobody really cares what I have to say anyway. It’s a waste of time.” The… Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
Getting away from fear as a motivator in your work environment
It’s Sunday and that nagging reminder the weekend is coming to an end has settled in our being. Not only are we bummed about the weekend ending but we’re dreading Monday. Monday means that we have to go back to work. Even if we love our jobs and the people we work with, it’s normal… Read More »
What to look for when choosing a therapist
Frequently I hear from clients that they did like or did not connect with their past therapists. It could be easy to say that it’s just a simple matter of “there are a lot of bad therapists out there”, but I think it goes deeper than that. Getting therapy that works is about finding a… Read More »