Podcast: What Men Need in Therapy

I’ve been busy lately guest blogging and doing some podcast interviews on my approach working with men in individual therapy as well as couples therapy.  There are specific needs and challenges for men when they approach therapy.

I recently was interviewed on the Practice of Being Seen podcast with Rebecca Wong who is a couples therapist in New York.

You can listen to the podcast interview here:  https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/episode/43

In the episode, Rebecca and I discuss:

• Why men feel threatened by the pressure of transformation in therapy.
• The differences in the ways men and women are acculturated and the ways that effects how therapists need to relate to them in the clinical space.
• The impossible standard that modern marriage presents us with and the risk of relationship burnout.
• John’s “Water on the Sink” story, how it changed his marriage, and how he uses this personal story as a relational anecdote for his male clients for his clients to make changes.
• Using relational work versus evidence-based work, and striking a balance between using academic principles and speaking our truth as humans with our clients.
• Sitting with our feelings when our clients trigger us and how we can use these moments to better understand what our clients are going through.
• Moving past client distrust and displays of power in the clinical space.
• Male experiences of their own feminine energy, feminine energy as the oil that runs therapy, and how John fosters the feminine energy in men.
• What John has learned by running men’s therapy groups.
• John’s desire to simultaneously ramp up and scale down in his business and what that looks like for him.
• The draw of “abundance” over doing all the things and trusting the process to avoid burnout in striving toward your business goals.
• The importance of creating space for systems and processes that work for you.