I love going on adventures, especially outdoors. And recently, I got to experience a new kind of outdoor adventure: Rock climbing. I had already been climbing for a while now at indoor rock climbing facilities, but this was my first time getting to do some true outdoor climbing. And it was awesome. Now, I imagine… Read More »
Taking a risk
How are you? (No, really…how are you?)
Mike (a client of mine, not his real name) comes into my office. I can see he’s not doing well. I ask him what I ask everyone when I see him. “How’ve you been?” He barely makes eye contact. Something is obviously bothering him. “No”, I say, “how ARE YOU doing?” He gets emotional as… Read More »
The benefit of being “inauthentic”
You’ve probably heard this before. Fake it till you make it. But what does it mean? Should I pretend to like doing something that I don’t really like for the sake of doing it? How long do I have to fake it? Will I ever not have to fake it? Does this make me “unauthentic”?… Read More »
Why Don’t Men Talk About Their Depression?
We know men experience depression. We know that it’s one of the most common mental health issues men experience. According to research data from the American Psychological Association, around 30% of men have experienced at least one significant episode of depression in their lives. I would argue that number is even higher given that many… Read More »
Feelings. What’s the point?
Therapeutically speaking, nothing hits home like the question “So what’s the point of talking about our emotions?” Obviously, they’re uncomfortable. They cause us to feel some level of pain and can be tied to wounding, past memories, or even trauma. But this question is at the heart of any self growth process. Why would we… Read More »
The Problem with Excuses
What’s bothering you right now? What’s in your way today of living the life you’d like to be living? Are you tired? Did you get enough sleep last night? Did your kids wake up at 3am when you had to be up at 5am? Have you ever had something which you weren’t expecting get in… Read More »
Why surface behavior changes don’t work
This past January I did an experiment of sorts. Forty days of meditation each day for at least 30 minutes. Up until that point, I tried doing meditation when I “felt like doing it”. It didn’t work out too well. Think of what happens when you try and workout once a week or even once… Read More »
Getting “burned out”? Stop fighting it.
Not long ago I was in my old office asking myself “when is this going to turn for me?” I had persistent and overwhelming feelings of being “stuck” and a lack of fulfillment with my work. I lacked a clear sense of direction. Sure, I’d get done what needed to get done but I was… Read More »
How to love your haters
Maybe you’ve felt it too. Your current job isn’t cutting it. You’re tired of working for someone else and not seeing the benefits of your hard work. Or maybe your old ways of solely dedicating yourself to please others and gaining approval from your family and friends is no longer what you want. You see… Read More »
A New Year’s resolution: Stop making resolutions
Happy New Year, everybody. Another year down and it’s that time of year that we start looking forward into what the new year can bring us. What can we do better? What changes can we make that will improve our lives? How can we become “brand new” people and overcome those long standing struggles? My… Read More »