I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. Life is full of things we can measure. Things like money, grades, scores, can be clearly seen as a result. Good? Bad? Pass? Fail? You don’t have to be a math nerd or a genius to appreciate the value of good old number based subject matters. But… Read More »
Frustration
The comparison game is killing us
Maybe the tendency for humans to compare what they have, or what they want, with others is as old as human behavior itself. We all seem to do the comparison thing and we don’t have to go very far to be exposed to it. Facebook, Instagram, the media. Our neighbors, our family, our friends. Maybe… Read More »
Transcending fear and anger
The state of world right now is weird. It’s a weird time to be alive. Our political landscape is now unescapable. Even if we want to ignore it, we can’t. Naturally, when we encounter situations that we don’t accept or that we are afraid of we get scared. I’m not one to tell people… Read More »
How gratitude can help you even if you hate hearing about gratitude
“Be Thankful!” “Drop the Negativity!” “Embrace the Positivity!” We hear the messages on social media. We see people who seem they can live life effortlessly in their bubble of peace. We’ve all got those people in our lives that express positive vibes as effortlessly as breathing. But for many of us, it doesn’t come that… Read More »
Why surface behavior changes don’t work
This past January I did an experiment of sorts. Forty days of meditation each day for at least 30 minutes. Up until that point, I tried doing meditation when I “felt like doing it”. It didn’t work out too well. Think of what happens when you try and workout once a week or even once… Read More »
Getting “burned out”? Stop fighting it.
Not long ago I was in my old office asking myself “when is this going to turn for me?” I had persistent and overwhelming feelings of being “stuck” and a lack of fulfillment with my work. I lacked a clear sense of direction. Sure, I’d get done what needed to get done but I was… Read More »
Feeling Trumped, Bernied, or Hillaried? How you can take back your happiness.
Tensions are high right now. Voter turn out is most likely going to break records this fall for the presidential nomination. People are angry and scared. There’s no ignoring the fact that the political climate right now is not good. Some people are convinced this is the most divided we’ve ever seen our nation. It’s… Read More »
A New Year’s resolution: Stop making resolutions
Happy New Year, everybody. Another year down and it’s that time of year that we start looking forward into what the new year can bring us. What can we do better? What changes can we make that will improve our lives? How can we become “brand new” people and overcome those long standing struggles? My… Read More »
Quotes from the inner critic. Things “successful” people say to themselves.
Negative self talk. It’s real. Everybody deals with it. Even those people that we see as having their “shit together”. I asked this question to various professionals, psychologists, counselors, and designers…”When your inner critic is at it’s worst, what does it say to you?” Various professionals ages 30-52 years old answered. Here’s what they said…. Read More »
How to stop being passive aggressive with your partner (say what you really want to say)
A couple that’s been coming to see me for couples counseling for a few weeks has an on-going problem. Like many couples with marital issues, Jenn and Kyle have communication issues. Their particular issue is that they don’t know how to express their anger with one another without being passive aggressive. They’re unable to effectively… Read More »