Hey, hey…and happy February. The dark depths of winter are upon us. The cold has settled in (unless you are in the southern hemisphere…then you are in the throws of summer). But you know what winter can feel like. One day after another. One foot in front of the other. Just making it through can… Read More »
Dealing with setbacks
Transcending fear and anger
The state of world right now is weird. It’s a weird time to be alive. Our political landscape is now unescapable. Even if we want to ignore it, we can’t. Naturally, when we encounter situations that we don’t accept or that we are afraid of we get scared. I’m not one to tell people… Read More »
How gratitude can help you even if you hate hearing about gratitude
“Be Thankful!” “Drop the Negativity!” “Embrace the Positivity!” We hear the messages on social media. We see people who seem they can live life effortlessly in their bubble of peace. We’ve all got those people in our lives that express positive vibes as effortlessly as breathing. But for many of us, it doesn’t come that… Read More »
Why surface behavior changes don’t work
This past January I did an experiment of sorts. Forty days of meditation each day for at least 30 minutes. Up until that point, I tried doing meditation when I “felt like doing it”. It didn’t work out too well. Think of what happens when you try and workout once a week or even once… Read More »
Quotes from the inner critic. Things “successful” people say to themselves.
Negative self talk. It’s real. Everybody deals with it. Even those people that we see as having their “shit together”. I asked this question to various professionals, psychologists, counselors, and designers…”When your inner critic is at it’s worst, what does it say to you?” Various professionals ages 30-52 years old answered. Here’s what they said…. Read More »
How to be ok with not getting the last word
It feels really good to be “right”. To be able to win that argument and get that last word in. You have just spent a tremendous amount of energy in arguing with your partner, or whoever it might be. The last thing you want to do is to let go, stop, and not “win”. So… Read More »
Why improving self esteem is hard
Most of us have some area of ourselves that we don’t feel very good about. People might tell us “you’re fine!” or “don’t worry about it!”. But it’s not that easy. Some of us don’t feel good about ourselves at all. It’s hard for some people to think they’re good at anything. A failure at… Read More »
What’s with all the anger and division?
Everyone has to have noticed what seems to be an increase in violence, anger, and division in the world. There’s something tragic to see or hear about everyday. Everybody wants there to be some peace and resolution but there’s no one consensus to how to help. The world is rapidly changing. We can’t deny it…. Read More »
Embrace the suck!
“Embrace the suck!” We used to say that to each other in the Army during miserable all day training exercises. These training excursions were always accompanied by temps in the 30’s and 40’s and steady perpetual rain. Carrying heavy loads of equipment while playing war games in the cold rain actually became funny to us…. Read More »
And then it happens…
The recent changes you made to not get into an argument with your partner ended when you blew up over something minor… You violated your pledge to stop wishing death upon the guy who cuts you off in traffic without a turn signal. You filled your car with an obscenity laced tirade, in turn leaving… Read More »