Hi all, I was recently featured in PsychCentral where I talk about why healthy intimacy in a relationship involves BOTH closeness and distance. Here’s the link: https://psychcentral.com/lib/couples-therapists-reveal-the-ingredients-that-make-the-biggest-impact-on-your-relationship/ Let me know what you think! Have a great Thanksgiving. John
Be an Adult in an Adult Relationship
In this video I talk about: Why your partner is not a mind reader. Not only that, you are not valuing your own wants and needs when you are not clearly communicating. “But…I shouldn’t have to tell you…”. This doesn’t cut it. Show yourself how much you value what your asking for by clearly asking… Read More »
The Harmful Boundary We Continually Cross With Our Partners
When we think about crossing boundaries, we tend to think of egregious ways that we might offend our partners. Rarely do we consider how we might be hurting our relationship by interjecting what we believe are harmless or simple truths in our opinion. In the video I talk about this common and damaging boundary violation… Read More »
The comparison game is killing us
Maybe the tendency for humans to compare what they have, or what they want, with others is as old as human behavior itself. We all seem to do the comparison thing and we don’t have to go very far to be exposed to it. Facebook, Instagram, the media. Our neighbors, our family, our friends. Maybe… Read More »
If achievements and behavior don’t define who we are, what does?
The past few years watching my kids grow has been interesting to say the least. Aside from the joy of being a parent, the struggles that come with it, and the endless self reflection on my “parenting abilities”, I’ve noticed something profound. When children are born and when they are young they don’t question… Read More »