It feels really good to be “right”. To be able to win that argument and get that last word in. You have just spent a tremendous amount of energy in arguing with your partner, or whoever it might be. The last thing you want to do is to let go, stop, and not “win”. So… Read More »
Why improving self esteem is hard
Most of us have some area of ourselves that we don’t feel very good about. People might tell us “you’re fine!” or “don’t worry about it!”. But it’s not that easy. Some of us don’t feel good about ourselves at all. It’s hard for some people to think they’re good at anything. A failure at… Read More »
10 common misconceptions about marriage
Marriage is an awesome place of commitment, growth, and everything else in between. There’s plenty of upside to it but it also comes with some myths and misconceptions. There can be a tremendous amount of pressure, and false obligations that surround our perception of marriage. Both coming from in the marriage from the spouses and… Read More »
Redefining masculinity by what it is. Not what it isn’t.
A couple of years ago I attended a workshop on relationship counseling. The room was packed with therapists looking to hear an esteemed author give his take on how to help couples reconcile their relational struggles. The ratio of women therapists to male therapists in the audience was about 80 to 20, women to men…. Read More »
The “shoulding” reflex and how it affects you
I stumbled upon this article the other day. “30 things every grown ass person should stop doing by the time they turn 30”. In the post it lists these behaviors that all grown adults should cease as they turn 30 years old. I found I missed the cut on a few of the author’s requirements… Read More »
Saving a marriage from the shame of infidelity (featured in the Good Men Project)
My article featured in The Good Men Project. You can read the original post here.
Kids, work, and no time for a marriage. 5 tips to change it.
I didn’t feel old when I got married. I didn’t feel old when I turned 35. I didn’t feel old when my wife and I had our first daughter. In April we had our second daughter. Now I’m feeling it. The child coverage in the house has gone from “double team” to “man to man”…. Read More »
What’s with all the anger and division?
Everyone has to have noticed what seems to be an increase in violence, anger, and division in the world. There’s something tragic to see or hear about everyday. Everybody wants there to be some peace and resolution but there’s no one consensus to how to help. The world is rapidly changing. We can’t deny it…. Read More »
What is the difference in being assertive vs. being aggressive?
Have you ever been told “you need to be more assertive?” But what does that mean? How do you know if in your attempt to be more assertive, you won’t be coming across to people as aggressive? Being assertive is necessary to get what you want and need. But if you’re worried about how you’ll… Read More »
“My husband is depressed” What you can do about it
Have you been thinking “my husband is depressed” but aren’t sure what to do? I read a book 3 years ago that changed how I approached counseling. It’s called “I Don’t Want to Talk About It” by Terry Real. In the book, Terry writes about men and depression and the cycle of shame that comes… Read More »